My son told me that magically, after months of not testing and pretending that his diabetes does not exist whenever he was away from me, he would change. He would test. He would wake up in the middle of the night to test and treat. He would bolus without reminder. He would become in charge of his own diabetes care!
I was cynical. I knew that he “could” do it but time and time again he had shown that he wouldn’t do it. The other night was our time to review his readings and settings. I waited for his pump to be uploaded.
As I looked over the data, I was pleasantly surprised. There were a decent number of readings–a lot of them high but there was data to work with! I looked at the past few days, the ones that reflected back to school readings. There were numbers missing. There was only one overnight test. There was no testing the entire time he was at school. I reminded myself that there was to be no judgement. I had vowed not to ever freak out no matter what I saw. He was to learn. This was to be a constructive process.
My son and I began to talk. I asked about the missed readings. He said that he had used a different meter. He was going to start using his Ping only from now on. It was more convenient to have one device do everything rather than testing and then taking out his pump (hold on, wasn’t that what the rep and I had told him when we did the new pump training?). He gave me the readings and I knew that he had really checked. He never gives out of range readings if he is lying. He also would never fess up to missed checks if he was trying to get out of something.
I told him that I only saw one overnight. What had happened to testing during the night? He was instantly on the defensive. He swore he had tested! He had the glass in his room to prove it! He had been in range but on the low side so he had decided to add some juice. He had tested!! I laughed and said okay. I reminded him to input the readings into the pump next time so that I could see them before we make any changes.
He relaxed and we walked through how to manually add readings. We also reviewed how to use temporary basal rates on the new pump when exercising. Suddenly he cried out “OH NO!! We forgot to change to weekday basal rates!”
I laughed again. I knew the change had not been made…well I didn’t really expect him to suddenly remember that this had to be done manually after 10 years of having a pump do it for you. I told him that was fine. He could change it right then and there. We would not do any alteration on his current patterns but he had to remember to switch back on the weekend. He asked to be reminded. Hopefully between the two of us we will get in the swing of this.
As the conversation ended, I felt more at ease. Perhaps he is growing up. He will stumble. I am sure he will have times that he forgets but he is showing himself that he can do this. He is showing me that my teaching did not fall on deaf ears. Thank heavens for the magic wand that got him on the ball..well at least for this week.Follow us on social media